aseksuaalisuusforum

[cokebug]

Hi,

A lot of you probably didn't pay attention at the "pakkoruotsi"-lessons at school, much like I didn't pay attention at the "pakkosuomi"-lessons, and although I passed all the exams, that's not sufficient to express oneself in a useful manner, and even less so considering that most of the vocabulary and grammar was forgotten soon after the exams. Also, this town of Närpes/Närpiö, about 80 km south of Vaasa is one of the most Swedish places on Earth, and therefore, real life experience has not contributed much to my knowledge of Finnish, which thus is very rudimentary indeed, although I could decipher enough of it to navigate my way to this "guest" section of the forum. Therefore, I'm writing this in English, so that we can all understand each other.

I came here from the AVEN site at:
w w w . a s e x u a l i t y . o r g / e n / i n d e x . p h p ? s h o w f o r u m = 2 3
It's funny that AVEN lists *two* Finnish asexuality forums, and no Swedish forum at all.

Upon further investigation, however, I found this:
a 6 . f o r u m 2 4 . s e /
and I posted a fairly lengthy article about me at:
a 6 . f o r u m 2 4 . s e / a 6 - a b o u t 2 . h t m l # 1 2
Anyone who might wish to contact me privately can find my e-mail address there (the "email" button at the bottom of the post).

For most of my 32 years of life, I've been a schizoid and a narcissist. Schizoids are self-absorbed and self-centered people who have no interest in relationships with other people, whether sexual or otherwise, and they are emotionally blunted, anhedonic, often apathetic, and frequently have a very low sex drive. Meanwhile, narcissists are self-aggrandising and manipulative and use people as tools for their own needs, including as audiences and spectators to provide the admiration, compliments and praise that narcissists constantly seek, much like alcoholics seek alcohol. Fortunately, starting in the middle of last month, these personality disorders started to resolve, and they seem to be almost entirely gone now. As a result, I've become seriously interested in real relationships with other people, and especially romantic ones. However, I'm still not interested in sexual intercourse, and this appears to be what people mean by the term asexual, and hence, my interest in asexuality forums.

At puberty, I started to find girls attractive, and for this reason, although I've always had a lower than average sex drive, and although I've never been interested in sexual intercourse, I've regarded myself as heterosexual. Indeed, I'm so hetero that I'm closer to auto or even trans-lesbian than homo. I never really considered that I might be asexual, because I did have enough interest in sexual self-stimulation to produce orgasms on an almost daily basis, and therefore, I obviously had a sex drive and therefore a sexuality. Hence, it seemed that I was clearly sexual rather than asexual. What would you say?

The main reason why I'm posting this here, is simply to announce my existence and availability in particular to asexual females living in geographically suitable locations. As I noted above, I live about 80 km south of Vaasa, in Närpes. Not that asexuality is all that important to me, as I'm quite willing to do the sex stuff if I have to in order to keep up an otherwise rewarding relationship. In fact, I'm a masochist, so I even find the idea of being "used" for sex, or other things my "mistress" might desire, quite erotic.

Also, if anyone knows of other forums or on-line resources in Finland or Sweden that might be suitable for my purposes, I would be interested in information on that, since I've lived most of my on-line life in English. Indeed, I'm almost better at writing in English than Swedish by now.